On the weekend Carmen said to me, "Today I saw dragonflies that looked like they were Siamese twins. They were stuck together and they were flying, but then they came apart so I knew that they weren't Siamese twins."
I'd been meaning to have "The Talk" with Carmen, but I needed this little comment from her to kick me out of procrastination mode. So on Monday during our alone time I got down one of our children's books that helps the conversation along and went through it with Carmen. I like this children's book, Ken prefers this one. The timing for a "first talk" was just right for Carmen. She handled the information maturely and with interest, and I was so happy to find out that she hadn't had any spoilers from friends.
Carmen had some good questions, which I answered to her satisfaction. Then she said to me, "I don't think that's what those dragonflies were doing, Mom." She'd totally figured out why we were having the talk.
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Ahh! I haven't had to do that with my kids yet. They are still pretty young. When I was pregnant with Max I kept waiting for Carter to ask something, but he never did. I am sure if I asked him where they came from he would just say, "Mommy's tummy" and look at me like I was crazy.
So good that Carmen hadn't gotten any ideas from other sources yet!
We had one similar with Taylor when she turned eight. It was completely over her head...thank goodness. I am sure we will have to sit down again one of these days. We got a book on boys and girls and how they are different. I will have to check the exact title and let you know. It was pretty good, but vague.
Feel free to good mail those to me when Chloe is done with them:-) HA! It really is good to have those books in the house all the time.
Milly thinks a doctor cuts you open and puts the baby in and then be cuts you open to take the baby out.
Interesting that she noticed the dragonflies. I know my Seth is getting closer and closer for the sit down. I try and bring parts of our human existence and purpose up other times, so that it won't be such a shock but I really wonder what's going to happen when he gets specifically curious. His dad is super shy about that conversation and I think it's important to hear the bulk of it from the same gender parent. Do you think it matters?
I am dying of laughter over that. Dragonflies...of all things!
Is this a hint for me??
I don't know why I dread this so, but I do. Maybe I'll have a goal of before you come to get it done.
Lucy: The only reason I think the same gender parent is the right one to give the first talk is because I think the same gender parent needs to be off to a good start for all the subsequent talks that follow through the teen years. I now think it would be best to have both parents together for the first talk, but that's not how we've done it, so I'm sure we'll stick with tradition and I'll do Chloe by myself when the time comes.
Kelly: Are you saying that you haven't had a 'talk' with Brynlee yet?
I admit to nothing.
Oh my goodness, I'm not ready to have "the talk" and think I might prefer the book that Ken prefers. I'm glad it went well for you, do you feel like an old pro at giving this lesson or do you still feel like "I'm the mom???"
I forgot to mention, we watch a lot of nature shows as a family and Randy and I often exchange looks when there are informative scenes. Tonight we saw the process Salmon go through and we also saw some wolves going at it. Fortunately the wolves were surrounded by other wolves eating so I don't even think the kids noticed or had a clue what was going on. The most disturbing of all is to see whales though, I can't believe the kids didn't freak out about that, but really I'm the one who was scarred after seeing that.
Jill: I totally feel like an old pro now.
And I understand liking Ken's book better. It's more vague, which is more comfortable, but to me it sort of defeats the purpose of the talk to be vague.
That is hilarious. You handled it so well.
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